Unexpected things happen. That’s life. Everyone knows this, everyone tries to be cognizant of this fact and everyone tries to plan for this… which never works. I have never known anyone that has a backup plan for something huge that they weren’t expecting. Little things, yes, I pack extra clothes to go on vacation, just in case, my mom makes twice the amount of food we need for events, just in case. Planning for little things ‘just in case’ is something everyone does. Planning for something so unexpected does not happen.
The idea is great, it’s awesome, but it’s unrealistic. No one plans something so big in their life and then has a solid backup plan ‘just in case’ the first one goes down the drain. That’s not how people work. No one wants to think the worst for an event in their life that they really want to happen. It’s a hard thing to comprehend. It’s hard for people to make huge plans for something in their life, be excited and happy for it and then have it all change in a split second. At least it was for me.
I came to Charlotte with a plan. It wasn’t a full plan, but within a few weeks it seemed like everything was coming together and the vision I had for my first year in Charlotte was looking perfect. I was in a happy place… for a short period of time. Then reality hit, something changed and the unexpected happen.
Which I definitely did not have a back up plan for.
So for a little it seemed like it was one of the worst situations for me to be in. Trying to come up with a new plan after you already had what you thought was the ‘perfect’ plan is really tough. Often times you don’t realize your plan isn’t all that wonderful until someone really close to you sits you down and goes over everything that was wrong with it.
Everything happens for a reason.
The past few weeks have showed me all the amazing people I have in my life (new and old). I am blessed to live with my wonderful family and to have friends all over the country that I can call for anything at any time. I’m also extremely lucky to have a few of my best friends in Charlotte and for meeting great people through friends and at work. Having people that you have only known for a few weeks reach out and be so supportive is one of the best feelings.
My friend Connie, for example, is one of the greatest people anyone could ever meet. Bold statement, I know, but it’s the truth. Anyone who has ever had the privilege of meeting her would tell you the same thing. She is the most loyal friend you could ever hope to have but at the same time won’t tell you something just because you want to hear it (which is a true friend). I was lucky to meet up with her a few days after the unexpected. Over dinner she talked me through everything and most definitely did not sugar coat anything. She tells it how it is, which makes her wonderful. It was hard for me to talk to her about everything at first, it’s hard to hear someone point out the flaws in a plan you thought was ‘perfect’. But we went over it all and by the end of the night I was noticing my original ‘perfect’ plan wasn’t so ‘perfect’ after all. The greatest thing about Connie is that she’ll never make you feel like there’s no hope. For when all else fails, hope is the only thing we have remaining. By the end of the night I was feeling better about the situation and what was to come. So thank you Connie, for being an amazing person, both inside and out, and for not letting me be upset about something that wouldn’t be worth it.
So now it’s time to start over, but I’ve decided that for the meantime I don’t need to have a plan. I’m just going to continue loving my job, meeting new people and focusing more on myself. I’m proud of myself already, within the last few weeks I have met some incredible people, have dedicated more time for myself, and found a roommate (and apartment) in Uptown! I’m looking forward to seeing what life has in store for me here in Charlotte.
Everything happens for a reason.
In a weird way I feel blessed for the unexpected and grateful of the things that have happened since then.
It’s funny how something can seem so huge at the time and then looking back it wasn’t as bad as you were making it seem.
I’m going to take the next few months one day at a time and enjoy living in a new city with amazing life-long friends.